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After some time, I realized that it really wasn't about boots (it never is).Rather, it was about feeling different, and not in a good way.
We live in a world of ISIS and Ebola, after all, and certainly I am not so superficial as to concern myself with the pettiness of not being able to squeeze my overly-muscular calves into a cute pair of Hunter rubber rain boots.When my marriage ended, I wondered if I'd be spending all my free, non-kid time with my books and my cat.There have been weekends when I've done just that, but there have also been long stretches when I've dated up a storm.On that day it may have been my calves that served as a portal through which all of my "other-ness" manifested, but on another day it could just as easily been something else.And for whatever reason dating in my 50s seems to have amplified these negative feelings.It's much more important to the younger men: Just 56 percent of those 18 to 34 would date someone of a different religion.
Religion was much more important to folks in the West and South than the Northeast.I've noticed that a side effect of dating in midlife, particularly post-kids, far too often involves shining a flashlight on all of my perceived personality deficits and physical flaws.When I'm not dating or in a relationship I tend to be just fine with the fact that I'm not a big party person, that I have no legitimate hobbies, that I'm not very outdoorsy (my favorite outdoor activity is coming back inside), that I've never run a marathon, or that my chin is too small.Not only are you likely to scare people off, but you also run the risk of alienating people with your high maintenance-ness. Think of lingerie as self-care, a way of honoring yourself as a woman. For me that meant boot-cut jeans, a black sleeveless top, and black high-heeled sandals. If your date has a problem with any of this, he's not the one for you. Casual dating is not an appropriate scenario in which to talk about your antagonistic ex, your childhood wounds, or your son's pot problem.What you want is to create an experience of a relationship with you that will attract the kind of man you want to be with. A first date is probably not the time to don an entirely new style; you want to relax knowing you look terrific instead of second-guessing your ensemble. Everyone at this age has less than supple skin and midlife baggage. If the date turns into a relationship, all of this is fodder for discussion and will come up naturally.Why was I suddenly over-focusing on something so seemingly trivial as the size of my calves?