Dating divorced single father
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Throw kids into the mix and sex often seems like an afterthought.
You can eat chips and salsa for dinner, wear sweats all day, leave the cap off the toothpaste tube, have a boozy ESPN marathon with the guys and no one is going to give you crap about it. We may not know how or where or even if we’ll meet someone, but we sure are glammed up just in case.
We want to do what we want without having to be called on it all the time. If we’re willing to work hard to be the best we can be to attract a new mate, why can’t we do it to keep attracting the one we have?
Wouldn’t it be nice if loving partners encouraged and supported each other in some unapologetic “me” time? Then there’s the odd thing that happens when a divorced person is ready to start dating again. Sometimes that weight is a barrier to intimacy and sex, which tend to suffer anyway due to living together day in and day out -- there are few mysteries left to discover.
“You know,” he said to my dearest friend, “I like being married, but living like I’m single.” When my friend repeated his comment to me we both laughed. After all, who wouldn’t want to have the best of both worlds: someone at home cooking and cleaning while you’re out having fun.
Later, after I discovered my now-ex husband’s affair, I realized he hadn’t been joking; he really was living like that. I’ve been divorced a few years now, and I’m revisiting his comment. No, I don’t think you should act like you’re single when you’re married.
Divorced people tend to think about sex; we’re either freaked out about how long it’s been since we had it or freaked out wondering if we’ll ever have it again.
If you start thinking about sex as something you may never experience again, you might be more interested in slipping into something more comfortable and dimming the lights.No one is really saying that a chips-and-salsa dinner is more important than waking up next to someone we love. Too bad we don’t do that when we’re cozy in a relationship.It’s just that we want some wiggle room in our relationships, so we don’t feel like we’re losing too much of ourselves -- as often happens in the day-to-day marital grind. Many men complain about how their wives have packed on the pounds since their “I dos”; in fact, studies indicate both sexes gain weight after marriage but women tend to gain more.Divorced dads often take on tasks they’ve never had to deal with before, so they’re forced to become more hands-on.Some may not like it, but at least they get to do things their way, which wives often don’t allow their husbands to do.So I would say that married people should live like they’re divorced, with all the benefits of expectation-busting hindsight, but still be committed to each other.