In this article, I want to talk about a few major differences I saw between Japanese and American dating cultures.Among Japanese teenagers the most basic way of starting to date someone is by giving them a “kokuhaku” or love confession.
When I first moved America to attend college, I was nervous about starting a life in a new country because I wasn’t sure how quickly I would be able to adapt to the new culture.
I did have a Japanese boyfriend but I ended things with him to go to school in California.
Unlike Japan, California is a true melting pot of cultures but since I had so little dating experience back home, I was nervous about getting into the dating scene in America.
I find that dating is more casual and at times it’s hard to understand if we are dating or just hanging out.
Something fellow GP writer, Grace Buchele Mineta mentioned in her podcast interview.
“You’d think, after a first kiss, that there were only two possibilities,” says Mourad Zeggari in his blog entry on dating in the United States.
“Either it’ll be a relationship that’s just sex, or what we call a normal relationship.
If you confess and she/he says yes, you two could be considered a couple.
In America, it really depends on the person but I have never experienced this type of initiation.
“A romantic relationship should move forward little by little in order to avoid a potential misunderstanding (wherein your partner could think you just want a one-night stand),” notes Meetic.
“On the other hand, if nothing has happened by the fourth date, you can start to worry.” Terrafemina says that sex is generally on the third date, and Rue89 says it’s on the fourth.
In Japan, women can confess their love so it’s not strange if we ask a man out but in America, it seems that women tend to wait for men to ask them out.