18 16 year old dating
18 16 year old dating
You would be suprised at the number of male students I have who feel it is okay for them to talk to another girl and have female friends while dating someone, but they don't believe the girl they are dating should have male friends or hang out with males except for them. I also love the suggestion about mixing up the dates - some family nights, some group nights, and some couple excursions - as long as you continue to monitor where and with whom, I think all should go as smoothly as can be anticipated.
It made me proud to see that my boyfriend would enjoy my parents and it gave them a chance to get to know him better.We get grief from the younger ones that we are too strick, but the older one appreciates the rule. That way both kids will feel the pressure of the same curfew. Our rules were: no dating at all until 16, group dates first, then one-on-one dates, 10 pm curfew school nights, 11 or 12 weekends, changeable at any time due to your behavior.It can be hard to insist on a group - who knows what happens when they leave the house. Dates also had to come to the door, not just honk the horn!Mom and dad had enough to handle,with ( Seven) I would imagine the mere thought of one of us coming to him with the news of a pregancy,would have quite literally sent him over the edge! We'd tell him we were going to the drag races and dinner,or anything that would take more than an hour or two,just so we could be out a little later. I think I would insist on a mutual curfew,and let her know,that you set that,merely to set your mind at ease. They are planning on what they are going to do after graduation and want to be together. We took off last week and left her and the boyfriend with our little ones for a while and I talked to both of the teenagers and told them EXACTLY what I expected from them. They said that they would be on their best behavior. In addition to all the other great responses, just make sure she is self-confident, is aware of her sexuality, is aware of birth control, AND... Keep open and non-judgmental communication with her, so she feels she can come to you for anything and whatever reason, no matter how silly or serious. Speak to her about common sense too, even though she is almost 17. But mainly, they need to know that we "trust" them, and respect them too.When my sisters and I speak of those days now, we find it hysterical,and laugh about it,but back then, we found very little humor in it! Daddy would ask how the races were,and I'd tell him FAST! You want to know your daughter will return home safely. If I didn't know better I would have thought that I wrote this. When we got home the younger ones, the spies, told us that they were very good and didn't even kiss in front of them. does not feel she "has to" do what a boy wants with her body.... No matter what, she is still a child, who is now entering her FIRST relationship... All the best, Susan In my experience the key thing is to make your expectations clearly known.Incidents,such as opening the front door,at the exact moment my date was giving me a goodnight kiss. The problem we had ,was telling him exactly where we were going. If she doesn't use good judgement,and leaves you to fret,without contacting you,then i'd share the consequences with her. There will probably be times,they meet up with others and make it a group date,but at 17 Shes mature enough to date alone. My daughter is 17 and she has to be home by 11 on weekends and usually isn't allowed out during the week except if there is a set plan. in high school and although she oftens complains she is the only one with a curfew I know she knows it is for her best. and no matter what, even as she approaches 17, she is still in high-school, right? ALSO, the boy should be making appearances at your house too... If you have a curfew it is to be respected, and if not, then (fill in the blank.) We can discuss whether we think teen sex is a good idea, but the fact of the matter is, what we think may not dictate what our kids do.
We took the alternative,kissing goodnight parked in front of the house,only to have the garage light flicked on and off like a beacon!!! The following weekend I'd be sitting watching tv with dad! If we told him we were going to a movie,then he say" ok, the movie is 2 hours" "It takes you 15 mintes to get home" I'll give you an extra 15 in case. I always allow the boys at our home and they are not allowed in bedrooms without the door open. Also, it's important for her to feel free to also go to her Dad for any advice also. and/or with a distinct plan and not just carousing around town. and since he is 18, he should be fully expected to be mature about it, and communicate with you too, his "girlfriend's" Parents. Take your daughter to an ob and have them go over std's birth control etc.I have an 18 year old and at 17 she had her first "boyfriend" If you say NO on things she will start to lie to you. This is the age where it does happen and it will slip right between your fingers if you don not have a handle on it.I found that I set the rules with both of them right away. I did a lot of things with them and let her have him come along places. My mother always taught me that freedom is given to those that earn it. I actually think this was a great idea because there was no pressure to go down the roads that lead to sex.My curfew was always set around whatever the date was, so if it was a movie, I had so much time after the movies were out to get home. With a few rare exceptions (Homecoming, Prom, etc.), curfew was never later than PM, because, as my mom always liked to remind me, "Nothing good happens after 10 PM".My parents always had to meet, and approve of my dates. They had to actually come in and (gasp) talk to my parents. Even though I thought they were really strict at the time, and I did rebel a bit behind their backs, overall I think they handled it the best way they could by being involved and informed. Our feelings are: they are going to do it anyways, so be very open with them and yes have the sex talk. How to value her body and dont fall for the "if you love you will".They really don't want it, but just have an idea in their head that "everyone is doing it, so we have to") How to stand up and say no if she feels uncomfortable or is feeling pressured is the best thing you can do for her (and your own peace of mind).